Dan

Having received feedback that my profile is long, I will include the following:

Warning / Guarantee / Disclaimer:
Some readers report that this profile is long. Others use words like: thorough, complete, and detailed. Some readers like my profile enough to send me a message; I hope that you are one of those readers. My profile is as long as it is so you have enough information to make an informed decision to contact me or not. I refuse to waste your time or mine.

A bunch of randomness about me:
- I am 49 (as of 2015), never married, no kids.
- I have been in the hospitality industry for about the past 20 years, and in the security field for the past 30 years.
- As a result of dealing with everyone from Presidents and Princesses to convicted criminals, I am a very down-to-earth guy. I don\'t come across with the attitude that I am better than anyone else, I treat everyone with the respect that I would hope to receive in return.
- That being said, I don\'t suffer fools gladly, and have no problem calling a situation as I see it. Honesty and being a stand-up guy are my trademarks, and my integrity has never been questioned.
- I have been a Mason for over 20 years and am very active in the Fraternity.
- I am a certified hypnotist, Reiki Master, and went to massage school.
- I have been to the Philippines twice so far (Manila, Angeles, CDO and Boracay...the flight to Boracay connected in Cebu, I believe) and I will return. I love the scenery, people and energy of the Philippines.
- I am more of a reader than a TV watcher.
- In a relationship I have been described as loyal, sweet, thoughtful and loving.
- The idea of domestic violence is abhorrent; I would rather just walk away.
- I try to come at issues from a place of some emotional intelligence; I am getting better at sitting with and experiencing my feelings, as I grew up in a typically dysfunctional Massachusetts Irish family.
- I am an introvert (my Myers Briggs Type is INTJ), listen more than I talk, sit around and stare off into space a lot, and need daily down time alone - or in the sanctuary of my darling\'s presence - to recharge my batteries. As calm as I may look on the outside, there\'s always something going on in my head. I have been accused of thinking too much, and I often feel like I am running out of time.
(for a good description of what it\'s like to date an introvert, search for the Cosmopolitan article called Things-to-know-before-dating-an-introvert )
- Perhaps based on being an introvert, I am not outwardly demonstrative in my faith and religious expression. I was raised Catholic, and have been drifting more spiritual for quite a while. You will probably be disappointed in my lack of Biblical chapter-and-verse knowledge, and discussions on religious topics most likely are not going to lead too far if based on straight dogma. I refuse to impose my religious or spiritual beliefs on anyone and set the boundary at requiring the same from you. I hold to Thomas Paine\'s statement that \"every religion is good that teaches men to be good, I know of none that instruct him to be bad.\" If I had to choose a team to cheer for, I would call myself a Deist in the tradition of Benjamin Franklin.
- I experience a condition called dysthymia, meaning long-term, low-level depression. Exercise, meditation and a good vitamin regimen are really helping, I can really feel the difference.
- At my age, know that I am not sure about having kids. My own childhood was a minefield that I am still cleaning up, and I don\'t want to pass on the generational bundle of shame and abandonment if I can help it.

Being an honest guy, I figure you should know the good and the bad right up front. I\'m not trying to convince you that I\'m a great catch, I\'m just trying to put enough information out so that you can make the decision to send me a message if you like what you see.

Let\'s talk about you. What am I looking for?
Basics:
- please fill out your profile and have a picture.
- please have at least a Bachelor\'s Degree.
- please be gainfully employed.
- I am not looking for a maid or a servant; I am looking for a life partner, a woman whose success and well-being is as important to me as my own.

I will always be respectful of you, I will never let you feel taken for granted, and I will work every day to be the stand up guy who does the right thing. A good woman always inspires a good man to be a better man. I will always be a gentleman.

Which segues nicely to...us. To figure out if there is going to be an \"us, \" I respect that it\'s no small decision to start a life together, and I take that seriously. I want to make sure that my communication is clear at all times, I respect our time and your heart that much.

Thank you for reading this far. If you are interested, please do not hesitate to contact me. I look forward to hearing from you.

If, on the other hand, you have read this far and are thinking, \"meh, nice, but not for me, \" I wish you well in your search. We all deserve the best...never settle.