Asian Brides and the Mail Order Bride Terminology
The mail order bride term is very outdated.  However, some
dating sites and a small segment of the population refuse to
let it go. It amazes me that a Filipina penpal posting her
picture and profile is labeled an Asian mail order bride.  We
have Filipina college grads, administrators, nurses, teachers,
government workers, and a host of other Asian ladies signing
up to be penpals on our website . Are these Filipina ladies
considered Asian mail order brides because they are seeking
men from abroad?  Is it because they come from a poor
country like the Philippines?  The truth is, people with a brain
in their head see past this crap. They realize that if a Filipina
wants a better life with more opportunities then more power to
her!  These ladies normally turn out to be very hard workers,
devoted wives, and great mothers to their children.  Many men
love and respect these qualities in a women.  That is why they
travel across the world to meet them and fall in love.  Why else
would you travel 10,000 miles for a date?

Are ladies that post pictures on Yahoo Personals mail order brides? What about AOL's personals? Of course not. Do
these ladies have more brain power that a Filipina?  Absolutely Not. Referring to a Filipina as a mail order bride is an
insult to her. Being from a third world country like the Philippines does not give peopel the right to pre judge these
ladies. The people that throw around a term like mail order bride are normally overweight single females in the western
world. Or we are talking about miserable in general that feel the need to belittle others. I get email from
these idiots frequently.  I am amazed at their anger and lack of any knowledge on the subject.

The mail order bride term is also kept alive by the Philippine government, as they try to pressure young talented
Filipina ladies into staying in country. The truth is that the Philippines loses many talented Filipina ladies every year
to marriages abroad.  The government would like for it to stop. Filipina ladies are smart though, and now with the
internet in high gear this phenomenon will continue. What will stop it? Good paying jobs and a chance at a decent life. It
is that simple. Until that happens, many Filipina penpals will continue to find love and marriage in places other than the
Philippines.

I understand that mail order bride is a term that is not going to die anytime soon.  The fact remains that it is insulting
and derogatory. Penpal or penpals is more appropriate and shows a certain amount of respect that Filipina ladies
deserve.